They dress the same, eat the same, and even date the same. They install Tinder on their phones, go on a few dates, then settle down with their third match and have boring vanilla missionary in their Punggol BTO until the day they die. Odds are, their favourite flavour of ice cream is also actually vanilla.
Conversion therapy is the pseudoscientific practice of trying to change an individual's sexual orientation from homosexual or bisexual to heterosexual using psychological or spiritual interventions. There is no reliable evidence that sexual orientation can be changed and medical bodies warn that conversion therapy practices are ineffective and potentially harmful. The highest-profile advocates of conversion therapy today tend to be fundamentalist Christian groups and other organizations which use a religious justification for the therapy rather than speaking of homosexuality as "a disease".
I deliberately say "we" and "I" throughout: talking about cruising, saunas, too much time spent on the web on gaydar - I own up to the lot, just like my gay friends do. This is not some sanctimonious moraliser looking into the goldfish bowl; it's a gay man in his 40s looking at the big open world and wondering when we are going to grab the chance to be grown-up in a society that now regards us, legislatively at least, as equals. We have demanded a place at the table, to use Bill Clinton's phrase, but now that it is laid, some of us insist on still behaving with the silly rebelliousness of extended adolescence.
Things nowadays are very different. Not only are gay bars and clubs in crisis, closing left, right, and center, but the art of hooking up has diminished. Well, the answer should be YOU; you should have the time because this historic method to hook up is way more thrilling and rewarding than a few taps on your smartphone while you lounge on your couch watching old episodes of Drag Race.
To get started in the pick-up game, you need to go where gay men are and learn to approach them. And not just one or two guys, but many guys. Nothing conveys indecision and nervousness like hesitation.
Sexual orientation change efforts SOCE are methods used in attempts to change the sexual orientation of homosexual and bisexual people to heterosexuality. According to the American Psychiatric Association Task Force on Appropriate Therapeutic Responses to Sexual Orientation, "there are no studies of adequate scientific rigor to conclude whether or not such methods work to change sexual orientation. The longstanding consensus of the behavioral and social sciences, and the health and mental health professions is that homosexuality and bisexuality are per se normal and positive variations of human sexual orientation.
The truth is some are like that, but quite a lot of them, I can tell you, are painfully shy guys who break out in sweats at the thought of even speaking to a girl. When I joined an intensive weekend course in London in picking up women, all I had to go on was the The Gamethe bible of the pickup artist. But that weekend opened my eyes to the reality of the scene, which is a lot more downbeat and often a lot more depressing.
CapnDan writes : what protocol you use, depends on location, that is, which CruisingAreas. If you are hitchhiking at night you probably want something more than a lift. Let the guy lead the discussion a little, gauge friendliness.